Boundaries can be shared and clearly communicated if they are written. Write yours. People share their boundaries by their actions, and verbal and nonverbal communication. Practice behaving in ways that clearly signal your boundaries. You can’t share and live your boundaries if you don’t know them yourself. Giving confused or conflicting messages during recovery can result in relapse. Discuss your boundary plan with a trusted person or a supportive family member. Ask a friend or a counselor for advice and feedback, then practice, practice, practice. Send clear signals to yourself and others that you do not use alcohol or drugs and that you live your values.
Use the “Support Network Worksheet” at the end of this chapter to identify the positive people who you will invite into your life.