You may feel remorse or anger over the time lost to your addiction. How do you make up for time you have lost with your partner, spouse, children, family, and friends? If you view it in a purely physical sense, you can’t get the time back. It is spent, gone forever. If you reframe the problem slightly, there is a solution, even if it is not the perfect one. A relationship with a partner, spouse, family member or a friend is a commitment or promise. It can be seen as somewhat like a debt. A debt even if in arrears can be repaid with interest. The best solution is to complete these time-management exercises and find out how to maximize the time you have available. Redirect that found time to the projects and people you choose. Repay those time debts.
Again, it boils down to choice. You can choose to be sad, angry or depressed over the past. You can make excuses: It’s too much work. I have too many things to do. It’s a waste of time. Or, you can devote your time and efforts to actions that will improve your life and the lives of those connected to you. It’s your choice. Now answer these questions and make your commitment to life change.
Then, schedule your days with activities that advance your goals, reduce risk of relapse, and increase the fun and joy in your life. Put the power of structure in your life for continuous motivation and forward movement. To guide you in completing your detailed
schedule of daily activities for your next three months, use your completed relapse prevention plan documents:
- A clear commitment statement and written life goals for the year ahead with compelling reasons for each goal
- A stress inventory with strategies
- A guilt and shame inventory with strategies
- A defined support network with strategies for connection
- A clear boundary-setting plan
- A communications skill improvement plan
- An exercise, recreation, and social activity plan
- A cues and a craving management plan