In order to become the person of your dreams and achieve your new life goals, you may have to change some of your beliefs and values. Is this possible? Yes, it is. First you must decide what values and beliefs will support your success in your new life goals and your relapse prevention plan. Secondly, you must believe that:
- Everything you need is already inside of you,
- You have a valuable purpose to complete,
- Permanent change is possible, and
- You are always free to make a better choice.
Research has demonstrated negative attitude predicts relapse while belief in yourself and in your skills leads to abstinence and success in managing life (Miller, & Rollnick, 2002).
When faced with a crisis people can respond in one of two ways. Some find the inner courage to raise their standards, even to the point of risking their life for a stranger. Others, when faced with difficult challenges, consistently and repeatedly lower their standards and seek the easiest way out. What types of behaviors did you use during your addiction experience? Did you raise your standards every day or did you lower them? Did you do the best you could or did you take the easiest way out? For relapse prevention and to get your life on track, the key is to recognize that clarifying and changing your value system is a powerful relapse prevention tool. You can’t raise your standards if you don’t have any. You can’t change your life if you don’t have values as standards to live by.