Give yourself opportunities to think about what is important to you and what kind of person you want to be. Become involved with different people and activities to get an idea of what you like and what you don’t like. Practice communicating assertively regarding who you are now and what you believe about yourself and your future. Other people who have good or bad intentions may tell you how you should think, feel, and act. But, only you can decide who you want to be as a person.
The self is made rather than inherited and is not unchangeable. Your self-identity is a work in progress. Each person creates and maintains a set of beliefs about their life, the story of who they are. You can expand your future possibilities. What you tell yourself and others can lead to increased emotional health and reduced risk of relapse. Take the time to honestly find some positive meaning in the past and present events in your life. If you make past negative events the center of your life, you will always find reasons to feel hurt, guilty, angry or defensive. You may be overwhelmed by fear of failure. Your future can be limited by the way people talk about addiction and your past ways of doing things as an addict. Your future can be limited by your beliefs about you.