Loneliness is a common experience. Twenty-five per cent of all adults experience painful loneliness at least every few weeks! Loneliness is neither bad nor permanent. It is a signal that you may need to develop a broader circle of friends, learn to do things for yourself without friends, learn to feel better about yourself, and practice being more content about yourself in general (Counselling Center University of Illinois.) You can use relaxation skills and spend more time on your life goals, or do all of the above.
Loneliness can be overcome, it depends on you. Only you can build your self-esteem and learn to feel good about yourself.
- Seek out positive activities that really interest you and situations that allow you to get involved, get to know others, and let them get to know you. Join a sport, car, dance or gardening club or take a course.
- Get involved in organizations and activities by doing volunteer work.
- Check your personal appearance and freshen up your clothes.
- Exercise regularly to look and feel your best.
- Develop casual friendships through the course of your day by looking for simple ways to spend time with other people such as: eating with new people at work, talking to others at the gym, finding a new work-out or exercise partner.
Start new activities in your life that put you in new situations where you will meet people such as at art gallery events or pet shows. Engage in activities that you have a genuine interest in and you will meet people with whom you have something in common. Make
use of community resources and check out local organizations and activities. As you can see ending loneliness means taking action. That means doing some research and getting out there (Olds, Schwartz, & Webster, 1996).